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Let me first say, I was going to write this first blog to be witty, funny and off the wall, but instead I was derailed by a post that entered my life unexpectedly. This life changing post stunned me when I first read it, however now it is quickly becoming a standard news story. What is it? It’s children and teen suicide brought on by bullying. Yes, a serious, difficult subject but one that I must address. However, before I dive down deeply into some facts, I want you to take a minute to think back. Yeah you think back in time, back over your life.
When you were growing up, did you ever witness the actions of a bully? Did you watch someone get berated, embarrassed or belittled by a bully? Have you ever been the target of a bully, being berated, embarrassed or belittled? Now the tougher question, were you ever the bully? berating, embarrassing and belittling someone for fun. What ever scenario above involved you if any, please keep it in your mind as you read the following facts. But first let’s refresh our memories with the standard “bullying” locations.
School, a place designed for learning, but actually one of the hot beds for bullying. In school there are the usual scenarios, school yard antics, hallway pranks and bathroom roughhousing. When you’re a bully you must have an audience. A group of on lookers has a lot more impact and proves your dominance. Oh and let us not forget the walk or ride home. Ah yes, there is nothing more personal then waiting until after school and surprising the victim on their walk or on the bus. All standard age old and time tested locations for bullying.
But now the game changer, a new place where bullies can take the whole bullying experience to the next level. No longer does it have to be in school, no longer must the efforts of a bully only hit locally, now it can be global, on the internet, on the World Wide Web. Imagine global bullying, a show of strength that far exceeds any bully’s wildest dreams. I mean why make fun of someone face to face or in the bathroom at school, when you can annihilate that person in front of the whole world, or at the very least all your “friends” so everyone has a good laugh.
Below are some quick facts, I gathered from sites such as bullyingstatistics.org, .msu.edu/bullying and makebeatsnotbeatdowns.org.
The post that I read that hit me hard was by Kirk and Laura Smalley of http://www.standforthesilent.org. two wonderful people who are working tirelessly to get the word out about bullying. Why? Because of because of Ty and the many more like him. Take a minute to look at their site, and their videos.
Remember if you don’t stand for something, you will fall for anything. ~Malcolm X
One Tough Muther
- American schools harbor approximately 2.1 million bullies and 2.7 million of their victims. Dan Olweus, National School Safety Center.
- 282,000 students are physically attacked in secondary schools each month
- 1 out of 20 students has seen a student with a gun at school.
- Bullying statistics say revenge is the strongest motivation for school shootings.
- Suicide rates among 10 to 14-year-olds have grown more than 50 percent over the last three decades. (The American Association of Suicidology, AAS)
-Suicide is the third leading cause of death among young people, resulting in about 4,400 deaths per year, according to the CDC. For every suicide among young people, there are at least 100 suicide attempts.
-Over 14 percent of high school students have considered suicide, and almost 7 percent have attempted it.
-Bully victims are between 2 to 9 times more likely to consider suicide than non-victims, according to studies by Yale University
-A study in Britain found that at least half of suicides among young people are related to bullying
-10 to 14 year old girls may be at even higher risk for suicide, according to the study above
-According to statistics reported by ABC News, nearly 30 percent of students are either bullies or victims of bullying, and 160,000 kids stay home from school every day because of fear of bullying
Bully-related suicide can be connected to any type of bullying, including physical bullying, emotional bullying, cyber bullying, and sexting, or circulating suggestive or nude photos or messages about a person.